6 Comments

  1. Anneliese

    I love Brene’s work, and especially enjoy her thoughts on vulnerability. This blog is a great example of how having the courage to be vulnerable can help others in profound ways.

  2. Cindy

    You have a perfect way of putting things. Thank you. If I’m feeling really down and I don’t know what to do about it, I remind myself the dark feeling won’t last forever. I just have to be patient and things will feel better with time. I think our mother is a perfect example of someone who has been through a lot of bad things but is still able to find joy and be happy.

    • So true Cindy. Mom is an amazing woman, and she taught us well. When I think of resilient people, my sisters and brother are at the top of my list. Each of us has been through some pretty crazy stuff, and we keep kicking! I don’t want to “out” anyone by making a list here, but it really took me back when I actually made a list privately. I’d welcome any one of you to guest blog on your own experiences and how you not only survived but thrived.

  3. Connie Devivic Nokes

    It is so true that focusing on the problem never helps. One thing I’ve learned is to focus on a positive outcome, when praying or visualizing for what I yearn, rather than focusing on what makes me afraid. Or, if out of my control, I focus on the silver lining. Deepac Chopra says if we look at each problem as an opportunity, we can find personal growth from the problem. For instance, I would undo my husband Bill’s death in a second, but I would not undo the compassion, inner strength and spiritual connection I gained through the experience of losing him. Do I think that is why he died young? No, I do not. But I created meaning from my loss and became a better person. I think our mom is a shining example of forgiveness. Forgiving the man who killed our brother doesn’t mean we think it’s ok, it just means we let it be his problem. It is between him and his family and the divine. What they suffer or don’t, what they glean from the event, or don’t, are burdens I don’t choose to bear. I give it back to them, freeing myself. By wishing for their best outcome, I open myself to mine. Life is hard, and once we accept that, we can get on with living. This I learned from Scott Peck in “The Road Less Traveled.” Rumi says all the seeds of heaven and hell are within us. I believe life offers many opportunities to contract or expand. Contraction is pain, expansion is growth. When I stay true to my conviction to create love, joy and beauty in this world, I expand and feel my connection to all, including those who have hurt me, those who sustain me, and the Divine. This connection brings me peace in the hard times and immeasurable joy in the small and large moments when my mind stills and my heart expands.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *