The best things in life are…not on a to-do list

This day could be checked off. Or it could be lived.
This day could be checked off. Or it could be lived.

I just had a rude awakening (one of many in my lifetime). I had been operating on the assumption that in 2-1/2 years, with 20 years of service under my belt, I would have the option to retire, collect my pension, and ride into the sunset (should I choose to). That is not the case. In order to collect the pension, I must be at least 60 years old, which means six more years.

I’d like to take a short pause here for a sidebar, lest anyone misunderstand. I love my job, and I give it everything I’ve got. It’s just that lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the future and what my life looks like post-EMI Health.

Realizing that’s at least six years away changes things. I was slipping into a mindset of getting through the next three years to “the destination” of retirement and whatever comes after that. But I don’t want to just get through six years–that’s a waste of precious time (like three years isn’t!).

This discovery is a good reminder that life is to be lived today. Of course, we plan for the future, so when that future suddenly becomes the present (like when I woke up one day as a 54-year-old, when just a moment before I was graduating from high school), we can actually enjoy it. But we can only live in the present. To be waiting for some future moment in time to do the important stuff…or be who we want to be…or simply to enjoy life, is a problem.

We’ve all heard the sad stories of someone who was days from retirement or the end of active duty or on their way to get married when tragedy struck and the future was snatched away. How sad. How much sadder still if that person was waiting for the upcoming event to start living.

On the other hand, we’ve all heard stories of people who have had near-death experiences that changed their lives dramatically. Suddenly, they realized how precious and fragile life is. They started fearlessly doing the things they always wanted to do and holding their loved ones close.

When I hear those stories, I always think, if only there was some way to find that sense of urgency, that true joy in life without having to come so close to losing it. I haven’t figured it out yet, but I’m getting better at truly being present in the moment–at least for short periods of time.

I’m working on loosening my grip and accepting what life brings. If an opportunity comes my way that wasn’t on the schedule, I take it. I may agonize over the decision for awhile, but then I remind myself that the best moments in life usually aren’t on my to-do list. The work will still be there when I get back; the laughs the ladies have over lunch won’t be.

The best things in life are not on a to-do list.
Mark, Larry, me, and Cindy living in the moment in Lime Canyon above Midway, UT

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6 Comments

  1. This is such a good reminder! I live for lists. Sometimes if i do something unplanned i add it to my list just so i can check it off!

    1. I do that too, Cindy! Or I put things on the list that are a given (things I do every day), so I can check them off. Guess it runs in the family.

  2. Hi Christie! I saw this post on Over the Moon link-up! I really love this post! I’m a planner and list-maker myself (even planned the list of when, how, etc for when I retired at 55…) If you love your job, you stay, if not, start planning! My ducks all lined up to retire at 55 (OK to do here in California). I was also teaching part-time at a university at night, and by retiring, I could teach 15 units a year, which brought me back to my same income level with the pension. Your posts and interests resonated with me, so I figured I would subscribe to your lovely blog! Almost 4 years ago I married a man who happens to love windsurfing! He has skills to be a planner, but he really doesn’t. He is spontaneous and he’s just what I need to stop and just have fun! Here’s a link to one of my retirement posts when you have time to take a look! Have a great day!

    1. Thanks Terri. It sounds like you and your husband are the perfect balance of planning and spontaneous. Good luck with your retirement. I will definitely check out your blog. That’s one of the things I love most about blogging–meeting new people and hearing different perspectives. Thanks for stopping by.

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