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  1. I like that idea…next time I will… much kinder way of reflecting on a situation that we perhaps didn’t handle well. I’ve spent many a 3:00 am thinking “why didn’t I say…??” or “I should have done…” I am not particularly quick with the witty retort, not terribly brave about confronting someone about something but at 3:00 am, I all of a sudden become very clever and very bold. At least in my mind and in my own bed.

    I like your take on Ellen’s parting words. If we aren’t kind to ourselves how can we expect anyone else to be kind to us?

    • I love this response Leslie! I am also more witty once the window for responding is closed! I often say I need a writer, someone who is one step ahead of the action. I hope you will at least be kind to yourself in your next 3 a.m. conversation.

  2. Great post… I saw something on Facebook yesterday.. and it was “if it happened it was meant to be” meaning don’t let things make you angry upset worry etc. Its not you it was meant to be. I need to think this more often. #MSTL

    • That’s a good attitude to have Bree. I usually include as part of my meditation, “All is well.” That doesn’t mean painful things aren’t happening, but just that the Universe is as it should be. I do the best I can with the skills I have and release the rest.

  3. I have definitely succumbed to the “coulda, woulda, shoulda” scenario. I love the phrase ” I choose love over judgement.” I could make good use of that. It is a nice reminder that our attitude is our choice. These are wise words! Merry Christmas and all the best in the new year.

  4. Great advice Christie – especially in leiu of the stress and drama caused by my workmate over the last couple of years. I let it get the better of me – water wears rock as the old saying goes, but allowing myself to release it (and her) from my thoughts has been such a blessing. To not be going over and over it in my head and trying to come up with an explanation for her behaviour was a key turning point for me – now I’m releasing her in love (or at least in tolerance!) and it’s good to have her out of my head and to be filled with new and pleasant thoughts instead.
    Have a wonderful Christmas full of love and joy – thanks for linking up with us at MLSTL and I’ve shared on my SM ☺️

    • Hello Leanne. I’m happy to hear that you’ve been able to let that situation go. You seem so happy now. Perhaps those circumstances led you exactly where you need to be. In any case, life is good and I’m glad you are enjoying it. Merry Christmas to you and your family!

  5. I try to remind myself to not judge whenever I’m confronted by an angry customer. There is no way for me to know what brought them to this anger, perhaps they are living through the worst day of the life. It’s sometimes a struggle, but for the most part, I remember to choose kindness. I have a sticker that reminds me to “Be kinder than necessary.”

  6. Thank you for such a beautiful, inspirational post. Taking captive of our thought life is so important in the Christian life. Thoughts about other people or things that make me angry often come to my mind and I instantly have to rebuke it and focus on something more positive. Philipians 4:8

  7. I love your vlog, Christie and your wisdom. I do sometimes fall into ‘shoulda and coulda’ yet once I let go as you suggest the weight is lifted. I wish you and your family a wonderful Festive Season and a very happy 2020. Thank you for inspiring me with your thoughts. Great to have you at #MLSTL and hope to see you linking up again in 2020. xx

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