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  1. What a motivating post, Christie and I love the A.E.I.O.U at the end. I usually go for a run if I’m stressed but it really is all about attitude. Life will never be perfect, but we can choose to make it better by taking a positive spin rather than negative. I do hope you are okay and things are improving. Take care and enjoy the last of your holiday. Thanks for taking the time to link up with us at #MLSTL we love having you here. xx

    • Thank you Sue. At the time I originally wrote this post, I was going through a rough time, but I’ve come through it a stronger woman with more tools in my “thriving kit.” We had a lovely holiday and now it’s back to work for me!

  2. I’m glad you’re whole, happy, and at peace now Christie. When faced with tough times, I think and take actions to get me out of the sad or angry mode. I also stay connected with my family and friends who support me. Have a great day!

    • Great tools for resilience, Natalie. Thanks for sharing them. I also find that taking action is the best thing for dispelling worry. I like the saying, “You can’t wring your hands while rolling up your sleeves!”

  3. Loved these thoughts Christie. It’s true the only way is forward, and the less regrets and guilt we have as baggage from the past the better. Especially when we have new challenges to face. The past, as they say, is a different country.

    • Thanks Jo. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. It’s easy to get mired in the what-ifs and if-onlys, but there is nothing to be gained. I like the imagery of thinking of the past as a different country. I’m going to borrow that.

    • Thanks Cindy. I’m glad that we made it through those difficult times, and I really believe that I am better equipped for the next challenges–because you know there will be some. I’m so grateful for our close, loving family. Love you!

  4. Christie, today seems to be my day for reading about Choice and Positivity, and your article really did ring true for me. The older I get, the less I want to review the bad stuff, and the less I review the bad stuff, the more I find that’s positive.
    Thanks for a great article! #mlstl
    p.s Hope you’re having a great vacay!!

    • I’m glad I could contribute to your positivity reflection, Agnes. I know challenges will come–that’s part of life–but I’m not looking to chase them down or wallow in them once they find me. I want to learn the lessons, build the skills, and move one. We did have a lovely vacay, thank you. Now it’s back to work!

  5. I love this post Christie. I wish I’d read it many years ago before a few things started going wrong for me. I know now that we do eventually come through whatever challenge we’re faced with. My thought at these times is ‘this too shall pass’

    • I’m amazed at what we can survive, and thrive through even. I’m glad that you’ve realized that too. When times are joyful, I try to cherish the moments, knowing that they will pass. When things are tough, I comfort myself with the thought that “this too shall pass.” I hope you are having a good day today!

  6. I have struggled with some crazy stuff in my adult life and have asked, more than once, ‘why does life have to be so hard?’ But I have survived and even thrived, often because of the very things I had once thought might just be the death of me! Ha! Cultivating resilience is a key to living a long life!

  7. I love Brene Brown – she has really helped me see how to move forward from stuff that I carried that wasn’t good for me. Perfectionism and people pleasing were killers for me. Loved the AEIOU and I’m glad you’ve moved past the stuff that was obviously weighing you down when you wrote this. Looking forward to your return from holidays and to your guest post for me xx

    Thanks for linking up with us at #MLSTL and I’ve shared this on my SM

    • Brene Brown is wonderful. She has some great insights. I’m prone to perfectionism and people pleasing as well, but I’m getting better all the time. Thanks for the opportunity to guest post; I’m looking forward to it too.

  8. Very well written and very wise! We can learn, forgive (including ourselves) and move forward when the world is unfair to us or live in bitterness and defeat. We will certainly have days of defeat when we are going through hell, but if we do as you have written here, we will survive and thrive! I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your brother and glad to know you are on the other side of the darkest days now.

    • Thank you Teresa. It helps to be surrounded by caring friends and family. Certainly bitterness and defeat feels justified at times, but that only prolongs the pain. Some suffering we can’t avoid, but choosing to extend the suffering helps no one.

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