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  1. Connie Devivic

    I’m going to try Those on the road messages, thanks!

    I use an idea from Deepak Chopra. I try and “give a gift” to people I come across in the bustle of life. It can be a smile, a compliment, offering a hand if they are struggling to get a grocery cart, stuff like that. It can even be offering them a silent blessing, like those for drivers in your post. It reduces the anonymity of daily life.

  2. Deb Hall

    Because we had an unexpected experience with Life Flight in our family, I always send a prayer for comfort, healing and love whenever I see a Life Flight helicopter. Those pilots and the medical personnel on that flight saved my grandchild’s life several times en route to the hospital, so I always pray for them and the passenger.

    When driving, I try to remember that little driving mistakes are made by everyone. I refuse to give a total stranger the power to ruin even a split second of my day. I practice deep breathing when I drive and like you, I try to make eye contact and smile at others in their cars.

    • Thanks for visiting my blog, Deb, and sharing your experience. I’m so glad the Life Flight team was there for your grandchild. They are pretty amazing. And if I pass you on the road, we’ll be the ones with the big, goofy grins!

  3. Hi, Christie – Thank you so much for sharing this. I love the suggestions that you presented here, and Connie’s as well. I will give them both a try!

  4. Cindy

    The same thing happens to me when I’m driving. I make up reasons for why they did what I consider an infraction, “He must be late for his granddaughter’s recital” or “she’s so excited about her new pregnancy she just isn’t thinking”. Hopefully people will give me the benefit of the doubt when I do something stupid! 😊

  5. I had never heard that quote about the idiot and the maniac. It did make me smile, because that’s exactly how it sometimes feels. Yes, my husband and I both transform when in a vehicle. We get angry easily and are annoyed at the stupidity and oblivion of other drivers. I’ll try your little exercise. It will certainly ease our minds and racing hearts a bit. It might work in many cases. Although, I fear it will exclude all those people that are busy on their mobile devices instead of focusing on the road or the green light. 🙂

    • Good point Liesbet. It is challenging to feel loving kindness towards people who use their mobile devices while operating a vehicle. That is going to take some work for me as well. On a related note, I once saw a driver with a book propped up on her steering wheel!

  6. My personality definitely changes behind the wheel. I am not an aggressive driver, but my patience is tested quite a bit. I’m going to try your suggestion (although sometimes I may say “May you know happiness. May you be safe. May you stop being an idiot” 🙂 ). Nice post.

  7. I share your tendency to curse while driving, and like you, Christie, I don’t like this about myself. The other day when I was calling a slow poke a moron, I remembered how slow my Dad drove in his latter years, and suddenly I changed my attitude and pictured my Dad driving the car ahead of me. I was grateful to have him back if for only a moment, and felt compassion for the driver. It was a great exercise in loving kindness and turning the situation around. I like your analogy of meeting someone in the hall. This is a great reminder to calm down and show kindness to fellow humans, feeling better about myself in the process. #BloggingGrandmothers

    • I love the idea of connecting “faceless” drivers with someone you love, stirring up compassion for that driver and creating a tribute to your loved one. Thanks for sharing that Molly.

  8. Such a great post! My personality does change when I drive, I encounter idiots and maniacs as well. I’ll have to try your new idea for dealing with them. One of my fav comics would be Roseanne. She can always make me laugh. Robin Williams and George Carlin were other favs. I just love to watch or listen to anyone that can make me laugh out loud. You know my fav saying is: Laughter is the best medicine! Thank you Christie for linking up and co-hosting at the #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty. I shared your post on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, and Twitter.

  9. I like your mantra. I’m a pretty tolerant driver but my husband gets very antsy behind the wheel of a car and I realize it is because he is a little claustrophobic. I always tell him things like “what if that is a new driver or an elder driver?” when he gets annoyed by other drivers and that seems to help him clam down. As he’s gotten older he’s gotten more tolerant, however, and now having a new car with “eyesight” has made him feel safer and more in control against the bad drivers

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